Parenting a Mini-Me
By Sherri Callery (Erwin LIFE Class)
I Corinthians 15:49
And just as we have borne the image of the earthly man, so shall we bear the image of the heavenly man.
As an adopted child, I never thought much about genetics. Now that I have my own mini-me with similar physical attributes and temperament, however, our genetic similarities are always before me. Unfortunately, when I look at my mini-me, I more readily notice the imperfections that I possess myself instead of viewing her more objectively as anyone else would. As I attempt to train her in the ways of the Lord, I am speaking to my own heart as much as to hers. God uses her powerfully to refine me. For example, on the way home from church one Sunday, I grew frustrated after waiting at a stoplight through three cycles and complained audibly that only two cars could get through the light before it turned again.” My daughter replied, “”uc">That light is teaching you humility, Mom. Put others first."
The real danger in parenting a mini-me comes when frustration with our own struggles clouds our perception of our children. I desperately want to raise my children through God’s lens, without redirecting my distorted perception of myself onto them, so I have thought much about how God must see us as His adopted children. The Bible emphatically teaches that God looks upon us with inexpressible love. He sees beyond what we are today to what we will be when we are perfected in Christ.
1 John 3:1-2
1 See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. 2 Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when Christ appears.
From the beginning, God’s desire for us has been that we would reflect His image. If our supreme, holy Lord looks at us in the same way that parents view their children, searching for His image in us, then instead of finding fault, He should only see His perfect attributes (Galatians 5:22-23) reflected in us. Christ’s blood covers those who come to Him in faith, so when God looks at us, He does not see our sin. Instead, He sees the righteousness of Christ. He disciplines us because He loves us perfectly and takes delight in us. (Proverbs 3:12) Yet, He does not view His children with eyes of condemnation. (John 3:17) Because of His great love and grace, we can come boldly to His throne of grace and find mercy and compassion. (Hebrews 4:15-16) He longs to have close fellowship and have us call Him “Abba”, which means “Daddy”. (Galatians 4:4-7)
When I consider how God sees us, I’m reminded that genetics are not the issue. What really matters is that my children know Christ intimately and live in perpetual communication with Him. I should be searching for His likeness in them, not my own. As a parent, my priority must be to reflect Christ to our children. Phillips, Craig, and Dean expressed this idea beautifully in their song, “”http://youtu.be/4Z8bXcBRIU0" target=“_blank” class="uc">I Want To Be Just Like You".
Dear Father, thank you for loving us so much that you sent your beloved Son to save us. Thank you for His precious blood which covers us so that you see His righteousness when you look upon us. Please help me to view these children through your eyes, to encourage them daily, and to model a heart passionately devoted to you. May their love for you increase day by day, and may they spread your love, truth, and peace everywhere you take them all the days of their lives.
Sherri I love the truth that “He sees beyond what we are today to what we will be when we are perfected in Christ.” I want to have eyes like His to see myself, my children, the world like He does. Thanks for sharing !!!